1 Are You Really Living the Life You Want? | My Story & Why

00:00:00: Am I truly living the life I'm meant to live?

00:00:04: That's one of the main questions that i asked myself four years ago and it started my whole journey, really returning back.

00:00:13: And today I'd like introduce myself a bit better so you know where am coming from who I am what is purpose in this world.

00:00:22: So first off all Im originally from Germany My name is Janine and I'm a certified trauma-sensitive life coach.

00:00:30: So, i did several coaching in the past within the past years And this all started for me the same way.

00:00:38: so six years ago... ...I had my first coaching.

00:00:42: it was an inner child coaching.

00:00:44: It basically connected with my inner childhood to connect to my childhood emotions that haven't expressed or have the chance process yet.

00:00:55: And within these coachings, I did several coachings to meet my inner child and during this time i realized that had so many memories that haven't been present anymore for me.

00:01:07: So basically dissociated from a lot of memories.

00:01:10: but the memories in the feelings I felt at this moment they have such big impact on life about how behave today ,how feel what triggers me where I don't understand myself today.

00:01:24: So that's how I slowly but steadily learned more who am, what come from and experience in my life so far.

00:01:31: And then it made me curious What can i do to help others?

00:01:37: To make the same improvements That I felt about myself because I started to feel like connecting with myself.

00:01:44: I was able to quit my job Where I felt Like Wow!

00:01:47: The Life I'm living right now is not MY LIFE because I can remember when i was a young child and called my parents to talk with them.

00:01:57: My father often said out of joke, like here's the criminal police from my hometown.

00:02:03: And in the end without knowing it unconsciously The last stop before I quit my job Was to sit In the office Of the Criminal Police.

00:02:14: Tell me what you want.

00:02:15: but this impression they determined the way how I walked my path.

00:02:21: And i was really shocked when i once realized this, that im exactly doing a job where i thought my father would be proud of me even if he never told me hey go to police work as a police officer but Me As A Young Child who always have been longing and craving for attention from My Father because He Was Not Very Present He Couldn't Be Very Present.

00:02:43: Emotionally.

00:02:45: I was doing everything to get his attention.

00:02:47: And in the end, it was about... ...doing a job where i thought that makes him proud.

00:02:52: But along with my father passed away during studies actually and then started slowly.

00:02:59: that realized am really living life truly see for myself because always been more creative person The job wasn't created at all so paused a lot of my passions and I yeah, they faded away to be able to fit into life.

00:03:19: that i thought.

00:03:20: That's right for me.

00:03:21: And of course like at this moment in time?

00:03:23: I didn't know better and no one of us knows better.

00:03:26: But after awhile we feel that we feel unhappy and whatever We change in the outside The place where we live the relationship that we are in there still is feeling off.

00:03:36: There could be more.

00:03:38: and that's exactly what I felt took the chance to really quit my job.

00:03:44: I was working on myself, I traveled and i started do a coaching certificate to become a life coach.

00:03:52: first of all actually just because I was curious to learn more about this Because that technique is exactly what we learned with the inner child The same way which gave me the start point To re-think my life And see ok What for me?

00:04:11: And then I also did more training in trauma-sensitive guidance because i'm really interested and very passionate about traumas.

00:04:19: So first of all, we can experience traumas with our childhood, parents' caregivers especially within the first seven years that we live Because at this time you are building your hardware.

00:04:32: so everything happens within these seven years is determined how life will be unless we are not getting conscious about it.

00:04:41: When we get conscious, when you're able to change We can feel what couldn't be felt in the first place and then its always leading back into the core of childhood And that's why I learned step by step.

00:04:53: It was super beneficial for me To learn more about this & really face & confront myself with This.

00:05:00: so today now i can stay here & help others find their way back as well.

00:05:08: And then along the way I got very interested into different types of traumas, not only about childhood trauma but also transgenerational trauma.

00:05:16: It's basically a trauma that you can pass on in your generation so from your grandparents to grand-grandparents.

00:05:23: and there is also lot we are carrying especially all from Europe.

00:05:28: like other stories or events happened within last hundreds years.

00:05:35: They have been very heavy, and that's something we somehow carry still within us.

00:05:40: And when our ancestors were not able to feel things because they had functioned... ...they had to survive in survival mode then we are the ones who now ask them what they couldn't feel So it will be passed on some way onto us.

00:05:55: That is why maybe we're behaving in certain ways or fears.

00:05:59: We cannot understand where they come from Because perhaps never experienced what we are scared of.

00:06:06: And there's also another one, the collective trauma.

00:06:10: That is something that came into my way during my journey.

00:06:14: The Collective Trauma is basically What We Experience as a Society As A Country ,as People and Nation in a Country.

00:06:23: There Is Also Very Impactful What We Experienced In The Last One-Hundreds Of Years.

00:06:29: That Is Affecting Us.

00:06:30: We Have Kind Of A Collective Bubble.

00:06:33: So, for example if everyone had to survive after the second world war this energy of survival and Staying low being not too loud Not showing up too much trying to get forward still somehow in us And that's what is determined a lot of lives nowadays from Everyone who was for example.

00:06:55: I'm not able to speak out about they really feel sometimes even Cannot Feel What They Are Really Feeling.

00:07:01: so we are basically mostly very disconnected from our emotions.

00:07:06: And it's super important to get this connection back to our emotions, To feel when we are angry and happy When we're frustrated or overwhelmed Or really be able to name it Because if you can name the emotion and release it.

00:07:24: It is about processing it, connecting where it comes From then releasing that flow in your body that we create.

00:07:32: So an emotion is in the end energy and motion, so it's energy going through your body!

00:07:38: When you feel very angry its a angery energy.

00:07:42: but when you suppress your anger because you got taught as child That You should not be angry or you should be quiet And slowly but steady learned to suppress this anger The Anger will be stucked into Your Body.

00:07:56: And imagine when this energy is stuck in your body for a long time, what can happen then?

00:08:02: It can happen that you get sick out of it.

00:08:04: That you feel super tired and other types of sicknesses.

00:08:09: So all these energies can be stucked into the body.

00:08:12: I learned step by step on my journey so now we have better background where i'm coming from.

00:08:20: That's why I'm sharing this today and i took the decision three years ago to move to another country.

00:08:27: Now, I am living in Dominican Republic at the moment And could really face myself with a lot of things that came up... ...and it was necessary for me to reconnect who I really am To be able say that is my life Everything about what I chose the connections I have.

00:08:45: i chose to have deep connection with people, i choose to treat myself with love and respect... ...i chose to be in a healthy environment.. ..i chose love over fear even if im scared sometimes or will be scared on some points but always remember my self to be guided by love ,to be guided more information about where I'm coming from, what have been my journey so far and when you feel connected to it connect with me on my platform.

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00:09:25: meet me one-on-one if you feel the call to get to know more.

00:09:30: yeah that i can't get to see your story or support wherever you are in this.

00:09:37: together My purpose is to rise together.

00:09:41: For me, it's important to really come together with love.

00:09:44: So everyone has a chance To heal from whatever they are carrying so that every one can hear From what?

00:09:50: They're caring for so many years and we all deserve a life full of love happiness And releasing the chains that are cutting us down.

00:10:01: I see you in the next video.

00:10:02: Thank You so much for watching.

00:10:05: i'm sending here A lot Of Love.